Dear media: Stop giving out the suicide prevention hotline!
I saw the news this past week on my favorite music blog, MetalSucks, that yet another celebrity had succumbed to suicide. Her name is Jill Janus, and she was the singer for a metal band called Huntress. She was only 43.
I don’t expect many of you to know who she was. Heavy metal has so many subgenres that there are literally thousands of bands out there that are listened to by fans of this type of music.
Haters: Topaz, you’re just another hypocritical Catholic. Heavy metal is of the devil.
Topaz: Thank you for your free advice.
I’m writing this post because I’m saddened by another
celebrity person taking their own life.
I’m saddened that the metal blog (where I first read the news) ended their article by saying something like, “Please, please. If you are having thoughts of suicide, please call this toll-free hotline: XXX-XXX-XXXX.”
I’m saddened by the comment section where quite a few people said things like Why didn’t she reach out for help? Why wasn’t she on medication? Why wasn’t she in therapy?
I’m saddened and angered by the ignorance of those “normal” people that just don’t get it.
They’ll never understand.
Because they’re not like “us.”
They don’t have the disease that is mental illness. Jill suffered from bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and dissociative identity disorder, according to a 2015 interview.
Am I against suicide hotlines? Sort of. They don’t work for me. I’ve used them several times.
Am I against medication and therapy? Of course not. I’m partaking in both.
What angers me is that people don’t realize that there are many instances where mentally ill people CANNOT reach out for help because they are too enshrouded in darkness. Their minds are telling them that there is no other option but death.
This is why I have attempted suicide more than once. Two of those times I passed the point of no return (only to miraculously end up alive).
With Jill, I don’t believe that she was always in that dark state where she couldn’t think clearly. I’m sure there were times when she was partying and having a great time, enjoying life.
So, since there will always be suicides because the disease of mental health is too overpowering at times, is there any hope for “us”?
Yes. I believe that we sufferers should seek treatment such as medication and therapy when we ARE in a right state of mind; don’t wait until it’s too late. If you suffer from any of these damn diseases (depression, bipolar disorder, etc.), go to a doctor before you slip and fall headfirst into the deep, dark pit.
Had Jill been on a regimen of medication and therapy, then I think she would still be alive today. Instead, the world has lost another talented individual, and her friends and family have lost someone very special.
In conclusion, don’t give out the suicide hotline to those who are not “normal.” Instead, grab them by the fricking hair, kicking and screaming, and drag them to the doctor! Check up on them several times a day! Watch them take their medication! Drive them to therapy!
Because a phone number isn’t gonna do a damn thing for someone who is already too far gone.